Reason to love ❤️!!!

My darling hubby J,

You would perhaps find this a bit childish, but this is what I really feel about you and why I love you. I believe it is really really important that you know why I love you and I accept you totally the way you are.

You are a fantastic human being, (well, isn't that reason enough?!). Need I elaborate? Nevertheless, by fantastic I mean the integrity of your character, the values and ethics (being truthful, honest and genuine) you hold close to your heart and the way you respect others and their way of thinking. I am a fan of your personality.

I love the way you balance humility, modesty, self respect and confidence. You are amazing at that. That I think, also gives you the power to detect your own flaws too! All this is important, because there is a thin line between vanity and self confidence.

You inspire me to be like you (obviously not when you have those fits of temper!), but when you are at your best, in whatever you take up in life. Your tenacity, your perseverance motivates me to the core and makes me want to be as independent and determined as I can be!

Now darling, enough of beating around the bush! I would get straight to the point now! I love the way you love me and make me feel special. I think that says it all, but let me elucidate. I adore the way you look at me with your sincere and warm eyes with love and a feeling of companionship. I love the way you never shy away or get tired of telling me how much you love me which strengthens our relationship day by day.

I love you because you make me laugh, whenever I am at my all time low. That is one of most important reasons to love someone according to me. You know how to keep things light and easy when they tend not to be exactly that! That is also what precisely leads you to have such a positive and refreshing attitude towards life, which is simply amazing!

You are always there when I need you. You have an ability to see beyond my self-protective "I don't need help" stance. You see that I need help, and you are there. No questions, no expectations, no demands.

You annoy me at times. But, I still long for you when you are not around. You have the ability to get to me. Your stupid antics make me smile, laugh as well as get angry. But, even when I pretend to be angry or annoyed, I know that I just want you by my side.

You protects me, physically and emotionally and I always feel safe around you. When you sees me walking through a crowd, I see your face light up. You look at me with love and not lust. Yes, I know you longs to touch me, but you never forced your desires over my comfort. You don't call me sexy but you call me beautiful.

You accepted me for who I am even with my flaws while others might turn their back on me. You love me for who I am and not who someone expected me to be.

You care for my folks and their well-beings even though you don't have to. You love them unconditional and care for them with your compassion. You accept my family as your very own just because you love me.

Well, actually, if I go on, the list of reasons to love you can be endless, especially when it is me loving you!

I could say that you complete me…but that would be a lie, because every morning when I wake, I long for you more than the day before. Therefore my dear hubby J, I close this letter here with all of my loves!

It's not easy

It’s not ever easy to be yourself in a world full of people who might not accept you for who you are. Just remember that although there will be people who don’t accept you for who you are, there will also be people who accept you for exactly who you are. Those are the people that matter. Those are the people that count. Not only will they accept you, they will love you unconditionally for your beautiful and unique self.

Be visible!!!

I feel like a lot of people live feeling invisible to the people around them. Oh, they might notice them for a second but then they fade into the walls and no one ever thinks to look for them again. They feel unconnected to this world. Nothing keeps them tethered here and they find themselves in this limbo of not quite living yet not quite dead.
People need to know that their presence matters. That if you reached for them your fingers would touch their skin instead of going right through them. People need you to pay attention and hear the words in their silence. See the cracks in their mask. Feel the trembling in their smile. Understand the loneliness in their eyes.
People need to know that their life has meaning to someone other than them. People need to wake up and believe that their life ripples into the lives of the people they come across — friends, strangers, lovers, family… They need to have hope and you could give them that. You could give them so much hope with your actions and your words. With your smiles and your hugs. With your warmth and your love. You could be the compass as they journey through this life. You could be the light that guides them out of the dark waters. You could be the glimmer of hope when all seems lost.
People need to hear you say it and have you mean it. They need to see you show it and know that you are sincere. They need you to help them fill the gaps and holes inside of their hearts and souls with your warmth and love and friendship. People need you to help them find their way and know they are not just taking up space. They need to know you won’t give up on them and treat them like a lost cause. They need to know you’ll fight for them and be there when things begin to crumble.
People need to know they can count on you. Count on you to keep your word. Count on you to follow through. Count on you to be there. Count on you to stay even if everyone else leaves. Count on you to be their friend and live up to that word. Count on you pull them out when they can’t do it themselves. Count on you to tell them the truth. Count on you to have their back. Count on you to…
People need to know that they are not forgettable. They need to trust that they have a place in your heart and in your life. That somewhere in your thoughts and memories they would be found. They need to believe that without them your smile would be a little less bright. They need to know that their being there makes a difference. They need to feel like there is a place for them; a home, a spot, a seat, where they belong and are welcomed.
They need to know that they are loved and that they’d be missed…
And when I say people, that includes you and me…
Helping them become visible helps you become visible. Let us be the reasons for them to stay. Let us be the anchors that keep them tethered to this life. Let us be the wings that help them take flight. Let us be the answers for each others questions of sadness and loneliness. Let us be the bandages for our broken hearts, broken souls and broken dreams. Let us be the inspiration, motivation, and encouragement we need to get through today, tomorrow, and all the days to come.
Let us be a light in the dark for each other

Reflection!!!

Only once in your life, I truly believe, you find someone who can completely turn your world around. You tell them things that you’ve never shared with another soul and they absorb everything you say and actually want to hear more. You share hopes for the future, dreams that will never come true, goals that were never achieved and the many disappointments life has thrown at you. When something wonderful happens, you can’t wait to tell them about it, knowing they will share in your excitement. They are not embarrassed to cry with you when you are hurting or laugh with you when you make a fool of yourself. Never do they hurt your feelings or make you feel like you are not good enough, but rather they build you up and show you the things about yourself that make you special and even beautiful. There is never any pressure, jealousy or competition but only a quiet calmness when they are around. You can be yourself and not worry about what they will think of you because they love you for who you are. The things that seem insignificant to most people such as a note, song or walk become invaluable treasures kept safe in your heart to cherish forever. Memories of your childhood come back and are so clear and vivid it’s like being young again. Colours seem brighter and more brilliant. Laughter seems part of daily life where before it was infrequent or didn’t exist at all. A phone call or two during the day helps to get you through a long day’s work and always brings a smile to your face. In their presence, there’s no need for continuous conversation, but you find you’re quite content in just having them nearby. Things that never interested you before become fascinating because you know they are important to this person who is so special to you. You think of this person on every occasion and in everything you do. Simple things bring them to mind like a pale blue sky, gentle wind or even a storm cloud on the horizon. You open your heart knowing that there’s a chance it may be broken one day and in opening your heart, you experience a love and joy that you never dreamed possible. You find that being vulnerable is the only way to allow your heart to feel true pleasure that’s so real it scares you. You find strength in knowing you have a true friend and possibly a soul mate who will remain loyal to the end. Life seems completely different, exciting and worthwhile. Your only hope and security is in knowing that they are a part of your life.

Loving Self...

It all come down to my confidence in myself and the way I see myself. Someone close to me told me I have to love myself completely, and know without a shadow of a doubt I deserve to be loved, cherished, and I am worth it, no questions asked. Ever since that day, I have been thinking about it. I don’t want to keep finding fault with myself, hating myself for my flaws and weaknesses. No I want to love me completely, flaws and all. I want to have that confidence in myself and in my right to be happy and to have and do the things I want with my life. I want to stop doubting myself, questioning everything I do, and just let myself enjoy my life, make mistakes, and grow. I want to let go of this hold I have on myself and just be free and choose my happiness. I want to be confident in everything I do, and let the people around me feel that strength seeping from me.

"To dream anything that you want to dream. That’s the beauty of the human mind. To do anything that you want to do. That is the strength of the human will. To trust yourself to test your limits. That is the courage to succeed." - Bernard Edmonds-

I want to have that trust in myself and stop doubting my capabilities or the choices I make for my life. I want to stop criticizing myself and just believe and have faith in me. I want to love me, and have the courage to live my life the way that I have imagined. I don’t want my past to keep invading my present and blocking my future. I want to let it all go. I want to stretch myself and see how far I can and will go.

 

“Who are you to judge the life I live? I know I’m not perfect– and I don’t live to be. But before you start pointing fingers, make sure your hands are clean” –Bob Marley

This is my life, and I want to live it for me, and the way I choose to live it. I want to follow my own path, go down my own road, and not let anyone dictate that for me. I’m not any less worthy or deserving than the next person so I want to stop feeling like that. I’m not perfect and neither are they. We all have our good and bad, and I want to accept that.

“We delight in the beauty of the butterfly, but rarely admit the changes it has gone through to achieve that beauty.”
~Maya Angelou

I want to give myself time, patience, and encouragement to bloom in my own time, in my own season. I don’t want to rush myself to be someone different and to just take my time figuring me out, and figuring out this life. Everything is a process and I want to let myself go through it.

“I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.” – Nelson Mandela

I no longer want to strive to be fearless, but to overcome my fear. To not let my fear keep me from going after the things I desire for myself and my life. I don’t want my fear to be an excuse to not try something, go somewhere, or show people my heart. I want to be brave and take a chance. I want to triumph over every fear and worry so I can leave this life with few regrets. I want to acknowledge that the fear is there, but also make sure I don’t let it paralyze me. I want to stop being afraid to let people in, and let them hurt me. No I want to believe in the goodness of people, and that if they have earned my trust they deserve my heart. I want to follow my heart and see where it takes me. I want to know that no matter what happens I will get through it. I will overcome it. I will be better for it.

These are the desires of my heart and all of them start with the way I see myself and the love I must have for myself. This is my life and I don’t want to spend it wishing I had taken a chance or pursued that opportunity... I want to love and believe in myself and my own ability... 

Reasons to Love !!!

Comfort Zones

Those are big words. They are also the most often used/abused words in my dictionary. You would often catching me rolling it off with a careless regard oft to myself and often in generic conversations that go around the world.

Come think of it, there are many things that offer comfort in moments of insanity drives. It could be a pack of chocolates, a piece of soothing music, my favorite workspace, or the cozy comfort of an enjoyable book that often comes to rescue offering serene solitude and sweet freedom in the world of my own making. Yet, Cooing up long enough in those little spaces can make one forget the terrible purpose of being for it hinders the ability to dare and heed to the passion call to risk everything for something that we hold close to heart.
Sometimes I feel as if I am so away from my own self that it takes me a while to call for rescue. What so often made for lingering comfort couldn’t assert its existence anymore. Of all the paradoxical pursuits of life, have you ever experienced this urge to deny those little alcoves of comfort in search of something whose essence you haven’t grasped so far?